3 ス Learn From Each Other Throughout your life you will learn and go on learn- ing. Everythmg you do gives you a chance t0 learn more about yourself. Being ⅲ a relationship is a great way tO learn about yourself because when you are close tO another person you notice things about them and you that are worth thinking about. You will always learn from each other in relationships. You will notice things that happen and think about your feelings about these things. You may think about what you could dO better next time and if you are brave enough, you can change the way you d0 things for the better. This is hOW you learn from another person; by notic- ing your feelings and then changing the way you d0 things. 48

100 KEYS 朝 鵞 ロ恰 e 「形①後の , 末の , 後者の② 《 the ー》後者《代名詞的に用いる》 ロ leadership 名指揮 , リーダーシッ プ ロ leadto 熟 ( ある結果に ) つながる , 結局 ~ となる , ~ を引き起こす ロ lean 動①もたれる , 寄りかかる② 傾く , 傾ける厄 a れ over ~ に前のめ りになる , ~ にかがみ込む ロ learn 熟 everything you do gives you a chance to learn あなたがす ることすべてが学ぶチャンスとなる learnto ~ することを習得する , 努 力して ~ できるようになる what lessons you might learn あなたが 学ぶであろう教訓 ロ learning 名学問 , 学習 , 学識 learning point 学びの場 ロ least 形いちばん小さい , 最も少な い副いちばん小さく , 最も少なく 名最小 , 最少 atleast 少なくとも ロ leave 熟 leave one's whole lives Ⅱ pto ね人生のすべてを運命にま かせる leave the relationship つき 合いを解消する leave the rest alone 残りはそのまま放っておく ロ led fflead ( 導く ) の過去 , 過去分詞 ロ leisure 形余暇の ロ less 形 ~ より小さい [ 少ない ] 副 ~ より少なく , ~ ほどでなく ロ lessen 動 ( 物 , 事を ) 少なく [ 小さ く ] する , 減らす lessenyour self - esteem あなたの自尊心を損な つ ロ lesson 熟 what lessons you might 厄 arn あなたが学ぶであろう ロ厄 tgo 熟解放する . 自由にする ロ厄 tgoof 熟 ~ から手を離す , 手放 す , ~ を忘れる ロ厄 tyou 「 mind drift 熟あなた の心を漂わせる ロ e 動①うそをつく②横たわる , 寝 る③ ( ある状態に ) ある , 存在する OF LOVE liedo “第横たわる , 横になる ロ life 熟 try to picture what their life has been like 彼らの生活がど のようなものであったか思い描く ロ lifelong 形終生の , 生涯続く ロ lifetime 名①一生 , 生涯②寿命 light 熟 feel lighter 心が軽くなる ロ ロ like 熟 feel like a victim 被害者の ように感じる like most people 多 くの人と同じように would like ロ likely 形①ありそうな , ( ~ ) しそ うな②適当な副たぶん , おそらく ロ link 動連結する , つながる ロ list 名名簿 . 目録 , 一覧表 ロ living fflive ( 住む ) の現在分詞 名生計 , 生活 ロ live on one's own 熟自分のカ で生きる ロ livethrough 熟 ~ を切り抜ける , 持ちこたえる ロ Lon 名口ン《人名》 ロ long 熟 in the !ong term 長期的 ロ long-lasting 形長く続く , 長持ち する ロ long-term 形長期の ロ Ok 熟 generallook 全体的な外 観 how you ok 外見 ok after the relationship in a very special way2 人の関係を特別に大切なもの にする oka er ~ の世話をする , ~ の気を配る lookforwardto—を 楽しみに待つ ok good on you あ なたに似合う okon ~ を見る [ 見 つめる ] ok Ⅱ pto あこがれる 応 r ~ を探す ロ lose 熟 lose contact 市 ~ との 連絡が途絶える feeling 0 日 oss 喪失 感 ロ IOSS 名①損失 ( 額・物 ) , 損害 , 浪費 ②失敗 , 敗北 at a loss 途方に暮れ て 128

50 ・ Learn From Everything Happy and positive events in your life make your soul strong and happy; negative and difficult events allow you to think about the way to do things and how you could d0 them differently next time. Negative and difficult events can also make your soul stronger. You learn the most from events that are the most difficult for you. You learn the least from those that are least difficult. When things happen to you that are positive or happy, you will enjoy them but do you think about them? Do you think about what caused them or have led them to you? Do you think through what you might learn from those events? When things happen that make you unhappy or nega- tive, you have an important choice. You can either be angry or you can think about what you might learn from them and how you might act differently in future. 62

52 ・ Teach Each Other A loving relationship gives many great chances for tWO people whO are close friends tO understand each Other better, and tO understand themselves better. The reason for this is the amount Of friendship and trust that can be created between tWO people in a close relationship. Trust may start with love but will grow with friend- ship and sharing. ln sharing, there are times when you can learn new things about yourself as well as your p artner. New experiences glve plenty Of chances tO learn and grow in your skills and knowledge. When you have a close relationship, you can help each other t0 under- stand the things that happen to you and what lessons you might learn. A close relationship gives you safety Where YOt1 can learn. With your partner, agree that you can talk t0 each other abOL1t your experiences and share in what happens to each of you. 64

94 ・ When You Are On Your Own You Can Learn And Grow lt's OK if you are alone at the moment, if you are not ⅲ a relationship. Whether it is for a short time or a lifetime, it can provide a great space for you tO learn and grow. Being on your own for some time may well be just the right thing for you to give you the chance t0 think about what you really want and wh0 you really are. Ⅱ you have been hurt before, being on your own can heal you and help you t0 feel strong again ・ Trust yourself if you are on your own and you will learn and grow as a person. 110

Don't Beat YourseIf Up About Mistakes What do you say to yourself when you make a mistake? ls it mostly good and positive, as it would be if you were talking t0 a friend? Or is what you say to yourself negative and hurtful ? Learning tO love yourself when you make mistakes is one Of the most important things you will ever dO. Everyone make s mistakes; this is how you really le arn about yourself and the world. Mistakes can make you more understanding and teach you tO be a better person. Most people learn and grow through making mistakes and then they change what they do next time. Be open tO learn from mistakes SO you may learn and grOW a person. 94

93 ・ Learn To Like Yourself Many women think that the love 0f a man will make them happy. Some women fear being alone because they see it as shameful. The truth 0f it is that women are very strong and can be happy living on their own. When you learn to live with yourself and like yourself you truly become strong. lt is possible tO be just as alone when you are with someone in a relationship as When you are not With S01 .eone 冫 When you are With someone WhO iS making you unhappy you can feel very alone. Learn to like yourself because this builds good feelings about yourself and helps you t0 feel good no matter WhO iS or isn't in your life. 〇 00 〇 0 109

Mistakes Are Great Everyone makes choices about their lives that some- times don't work out for them. Everyone makes mis- takes every day. When you make a mistake, the most important thing is not tO be t00 unkind tO yourself. Learn from these mistakes, and use every thing that happens t0 you as a learning point. Welcome mistakes ⅲ your life. When you know about a mistake and accept that you have made it you can learn from it. Forgive yourself about making mistakes and learn what tO dO and what not tO dO next time. That' s the gift a mi stake can give you—the gift of learmng about yourself and about what you could d0 better and more wisely next time. 93

Section 7. Loving Yourself ・ 77. Mistakes Are Great 93 76. Be Positive About Yourself 92 75. Don't Compare Yourself With Others 74. How You See Yourself 90 91 78. Don't Beat YourseIf Up About Mistakes 94 79. Be CarefuI About Who You Spend Time With 80. Have A HeaIthy Body 96 81. Don't Be Competitive With Friends 97 82. Move Your Body 98 83. Relax 99 84. Have Fun 100 85. Sit Well And Stand Tall 101 86. Learn To Breathe CorrectIy 102 87. Time For Yourself 103 88. Do You Get T00 Stressed? 104 89. Nurture A HeaIthy SeIf-image 90. Build Your Self-esteem 106 91. Take Control 107 92. Don't Shoot The Messenger! 93. Learn To Like Yourself 109 105 108 95 94. When You Are On Your Own You Can Learn And Grow 95. Connect With Yourself 111 96. Your Needs Are lmportant 97. Balance Your Needs 113 112 98. Your Best Friend 114 99. Speak Well To Yourself 100. Success Starts With You Word List ・ 116 ・ 89 118 110

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