Time For Yourself DO you make time for yourself? Do you have times where you do things just for you? Our work culture has placed a high value on paid work. Everyone works longer hours at their everyday jObs SO it may not feel natural tO spend time for your- self by yourself. Some people make their relaxation time as busy as a work day. They fit ⅲ so much that they never seem tO stop dOing things, either at work or in their own time. Allow quiet time for yourself; it is very healthy to treat yourself in this way. 103

56. Trying To Please Everyone Doesn't Work Everyone iS busy in their work and Ⅵ , 01 れ en can find it hard tO please everyone in their lives. Doing your work well, having a happy relationship, relaxing and spending time with friends and family are hard to do all at once. Sometimes all this can lead to stress. You cannot please everyone. lt is best to have some very clear thoughts about what you want for yourself and follow these, rather than trying to be all things to everyone and trying to make everyone happy ・ Remember to listen to your own beliefs and values and follow these. Work out what you believe in and follow that every day. If you do this you will be less stressed and a happier, more honest person. 68

100 KEYS OF LOVE の ] が ~ とも形①どんな ~ でも② 《否定文・疑問文で》少しの ~ も , 何ら かの ロ ロ whereas 接 ~ であるのに対して [ 反して ] , ~ である一方 whereas ロ worst 形《 the ー》最も悪い , いち friendship is very much about how you bo 市 get along together 友情が互いに努力し合うものである のに対し ロ wherever 接どこでも , どこへ [ で ] ~ するとも副いったいどこへ ロ whether 接 ~ かどうか , ~ かまた は・・・ , ~ であろうとなかろうと whether you are trying be nice to him 彼にやさしくしようとしてい るのかどうか ロ whO 熟山 osewho ~ する人々 ロ whoever 代 ~ する人は誰でも , 誰 が ~ しようとも ロ whO 厄形全体の , すべての , 完全な , 満 ~ , 丸 ~ your whole being 自分 の全存在名《 the- 》全体 , 全部 ロ ロ will 熟 free Ⅱ意志の自由 , 自山 意志 wisdom 名知恵 . 賢明 ( さ ) inner sdom 内にある賢明さ ロ wisely 副賢明に ロ with all one's heart 熟真心を 込めて , 心底から ロ within 前① ~ の中 [ 内 ] に , ~ の内 部に② ~ 以内で , ~ を越えないで 副中 [ 内 ] へ [ に ] , 内部に名内部 ロ with regardto 熟 ~ に関しては work 熟 has placed a high value onpaidwork お金になる仕事を価 値あるものとしてきた Onedoesn't really work without the 0 山 er. 相 手がいなくてはなりたたない。 《 be 》 treated badly at work 会社で不当 に扱われたら worko ⅲ① ( 方法を ) 考え出す , ひねり出す , 解明する② うまくいく work 0 血 for oneself (that) ~ であることは自分で分かる work out what you believe ⅲあ なたが信じるものに精力を傾ける ロ worried 形心配そうな . 不安げな WO 「「 y 第 make someone worry abo Ⅱ t ~ のことで ( 人 ) を心配させる ばんひどい ロ wo 臧 h 形 ( ~ の ) 価値がある , ( ~ ) しがいがある名価値 , 値打ち self worth 自尊心 ロ worthy 形価値のある , 立派な ロ would 熟 what he says may not be what you would like to hear 彼の言うことはあなたの聞きたいこ とではないかもしれない would like ~ したい would rather ~ する方 がよい ロ WOW 間《驚き . 喜び , 苦痛などを表 して》わあ ! , ああ ! yearning 名あこがれ , 切なる思い ロ yoga 名ヨガ ロ yourself 熟 for yourself by yo Ⅱ rself 自分自身で自分のために ロ 138

Don't Be Competitive With Friends Some people want tO be better than their friends in all areas Of their lives. They are competitive in sports, work, how many friends they have, how much money they spend or the way they look. They compete with their friends to be better than them rather than enjoy them. Men mainly try to be better than each other ⅲ sport and work. Women try tO be better than Other women more quietly with body shape, body size and beauty. Try to spend time with people who are not trying t0 be better than you. Find people who have good, balanced values and who like you the way you are. 97

49 ・ Love Can Be AII That You Hope For AII relationships need work and care to develop and grow. Love can be for you all that you hope but remember that love never Stays the same, it changes all the time. Sometime it feels better, sometimes it feels like it isn't working. As time goes by, love will feel different as it grows and changes. Have goals for your relationship and work with your partner tO gain these. Practice the things needed tO grow your love, such as talking and listening and showing your love for each other. You and your part- ner can live through these times, grow together and learn tO love each Other 1 第 .ore and more as time passes. 60

Move Your Body Exercise is a positive way t0 help your body to feel good. Find what exercises you like and that help make you feel good about yourself. Exercise can be simple. Ⅵ lk some Of the distance to work, take the time tO get Off your bus or train one stop earlier on your journey and walk the rest of the way. This is a small but positive way tO exercise your body. Walk up the stairs instead of using the elevator. Ride a bike or walk to work or to the shops instead of going by car, bus or train. Try yoga for 30 minutes a day; this is simple exercise that is very good for you. practice breathing well. Exercise allows your body to feel well and happy. 98

Sit Well And Stand Tall 、 A11 .OSt everyone uses a computer these days; emails and the lnternet have made computers a big part of our lives. AISO, your computer is often used as part of your study or work or leisure time. This can have a poor effect on the way you sit and the way you stand. Leaning over a computer can stress discom- fort. When you are at the computer, remember to sit up straight and relax your shoulders and place your feet flat on the 日 00r 冫 don't cross your legs. lt's the same with standing. Many people stand in their work or have to stand for a long time during the day. Stand up straight and tall as it is important for good health and wellness. Both sitting well and standing straight are good for your breathing t00. 101

53 ・ Dealing With Difficult Times AII relationships have difficulties at times. Sometimes difficulties mean that love is over and the relationship is really at an end. Other times difficulties will give you a chance to think carefully about what you want and whether your love is worth making changes to allow the relationship, and both of you, to grow. If you feel unhappy ⅲ your relationship, think with some care about this question. DO you think and feel that you and your partner might be able to talk through each other's needs? Can you talk with each other, or does your talking always lead to fights? Can you try to work through differences? If you can, then be prepared t0 listen as well as talk about your needs. Be prepared for change, but also be prepared for you and your partner t0 d0 things differ- ently together and t0 work toward happiness again ・ 65

89. Nurture A Healthy Self-image Your self-image is how you see yourself. This is dif- ferent from how you feel about yourself, which is self- esteem. ls your self-view real about the whole 0f you —your skills at work, how you 100k , your relationship skills, your energy, your goals, your friendliness and your compassion? To help you develop a realistic self-image, write two lists. Write one with your strengths (things you are good (t) and one with your weaknesses (things you would like t0 change or d0 better). When you start, the weaknesses list is likely to be longer than the strengths. When you really think about yourself you will be surprised t0 find that there are so many strengths, so many good things about you. Don't overlook things you might think are small; it is strength t0 be able t0 d0 your work well, keep your home ⅲ good order, tO be a good friend tO someone' tO be kind to a pet, t0 tell the truth. Think about these strengths every day as this builds a healthy and realistic self-image that will help you to feel good about yourself. 105

66. Freedom Of Choice There may come a time when you feel you have done everything you can in a relationship and it just does not seem tO be working. If you have put the time and effort intO your relation- ship and done everything you can t0 make it work, if your partner does not want tO change and if you are always unhappy, you have three choices. 1. You can choose to change your thoughts about what you want from your partner and the rela- tionship. 2. You can accept whO and what your partner is. 3. You can leave the relationship. If you are worried about your relationship, give careful thought tO these three choices. 80