100 KEYS 朝 鵞 ロ恰 e 「形①後の , 末の , 後者の② 《 the ー》後者《代名詞的に用いる》 ロ leadership 名指揮 , リーダーシッ プ ロ leadto 熟 ( ある結果に ) つながる , 結局 ~ となる , ~ を引き起こす ロ lean 動①もたれる , 寄りかかる② 傾く , 傾ける厄 a れ over ~ に前のめ りになる , ~ にかがみ込む ロ learn 熟 everything you do gives you a chance to learn あなたがす ることすべてが学ぶチャンスとなる learnto ~ することを習得する , 努 力して ~ できるようになる what lessons you might learn あなたが 学ぶであろう教訓 ロ learning 名学問 , 学習 , 学識 learning point 学びの場 ロ least 形いちばん小さい , 最も少な い副いちばん小さく , 最も少なく 名最小 , 最少 atleast 少なくとも ロ leave 熟 leave one's whole lives Ⅱ pto ね人生のすべてを運命にま かせる leave the relationship つき 合いを解消する leave the rest alone 残りはそのまま放っておく ロ led fflead ( 導く ) の過去 , 過去分詞 ロ leisure 形余暇の ロ less 形 ~ より小さい [ 少ない ] 副 ~ より少なく , ~ ほどでなく ロ lessen 動 ( 物 , 事を ) 少なく [ 小さ く ] する , 減らす lessenyour self - esteem あなたの自尊心を損な つ ロ lesson 熟 what lessons you might 厄 arn あなたが学ぶであろう ロ厄 tgo 熟解放する . 自由にする ロ厄 tgoof 熟 ~ から手を離す , 手放 す , ~ を忘れる ロ厄 tyou 「 mind drift 熟あなた の心を漂わせる ロ e 動①うそをつく②横たわる , 寝 る③ ( ある状態に ) ある , 存在する OF LOVE liedo “第横たわる , 横になる ロ life 熟 try to picture what their life has been like 彼らの生活がど のようなものであったか思い描く ロ lifelong 形終生の , 生涯続く ロ lifetime 名①一生 , 生涯②寿命 light 熟 feel lighter 心が軽くなる ロ ロ like 熟 feel like a victim 被害者の ように感じる like most people 多 くの人と同じように would like ロ likely 形①ありそうな , ( ~ ) しそ うな②適当な副たぶん , おそらく ロ link 動連結する , つながる ロ list 名名簿 . 目録 , 一覧表 ロ living fflive ( 住む ) の現在分詞 名生計 , 生活 ロ live on one's own 熟自分のカ で生きる ロ livethrough 熟 ~ を切り抜ける , 持ちこたえる ロ Lon 名口ン《人名》 ロ long 熟 in the !ong term 長期的 ロ long-lasting 形長く続く , 長持ち する ロ long-term 形長期の ロ Ok 熟 generallook 全体的な外 観 how you ok 外見 ok after the relationship in a very special way2 人の関係を特別に大切なもの にする oka er ~ の世話をする , ~ の気を配る lookforwardto—を 楽しみに待つ ok good on you あ なたに似合う okon ~ を見る [ 見 つめる ] ok Ⅱ pto あこがれる 応 r ~ を探す ロ lose 熟 lose contact 市 ~ との 連絡が途絶える feeling 0 日 oss 喪失 感 ロ IOSS 名①損失 ( 額・物 ) , 損害 , 浪費 ②失敗 , 敗北 at a loss 途方に暮れ て 128

90 ・ Build Your Self-esteem lt's important to feel good and to be clear and strong about your skills and about what you can do. No one is perfect, but you are mostly capable. Remember that you have good skills in your work, you have some relationship skills and you can talk clearly, listen and achieve your goals. You may not fit the popular magazine pictures for size, figure, dress and the bag you carry, but you can still dress well, or buy nice things. While there may be a few things you would like to change about yourself, you are probably more OK than you think you are. When you think about yourself, do you like yourself? DO you see yourself as positively as you really are? Do you feel mostly good about yourself? Do you have good self-esteem? Or do you talk badly to yourself about those few things you might like to improve about yourself? TO help with this, think about your strengths, the things you are good at. Think about the things you do well each day rather than talking badly to yourself about any small things you could have done better. 106

/ 4 ・ How You See Yourself Are you kind t0 yourself when you think about your body, or are you unkind to yourself about your body and how you 100k ? Do you like the way you 100k or do you think you should be taller or prettier or thinner or have a dif- ferent—looking body? If you don't like yourself now because 0f the way you look, you may not like yourself any better if you were able to change. Learn to like all the good things about yourself, now. Think about all the things about yourself that you like and learn to like yourself as you are right now. Change what you can change, but accept who and what you are right now. If you d0 want to change something about yourself, start with something you can change like your weight, hair style or color, general look, or eating habits. Set small goals for the things you can change, as well as liking yourself as you are right now. 90

50 ・ Learn From Everything Happy and positive events in your life make your soul strong and happy; negative and difficult events allow you to think about the way to do things and how you could d0 them differently next time. Negative and difficult events can also make your soul stronger. You learn the most from events that are the most difficult for you. You learn the least from those that are least difficult. When things happen to you that are positive or happy, you will enjoy them but do you think about them? Do you think about what caused them or have led them to you? Do you think through what you might learn from those events? When things happen that make you unhappy or nega- tive, you have an important choice. You can either be angry or you can think about what you might learn from them and how you might act differently in future. 62

35 ・ Ask For The Truth Sometimes your partner will say things to you to be nice or pleasant t0 you, rather than being 100 % truth- You might be in a dress shop and you really like a dress. Let's say your partner is good at picking dresses that 100k good on you, and you ask him whether one suits you. He knows that this dress is not for you, per- haps the line just isn't right for your body or the C010r is wrong. If he's truthful he will say that it doesn't look exactly right for you. If he tries to please you, he might say that it 100kS good on you rather than tell you the truth. Which would you rather hear? Make it clear tO your partner that you want him to be truthful with you every time, even if he thinks that what he says may not be what you would like to hear. Promise not to react badly if he tells you something you don' t like. 46

94 ・ When You Are On Your Own You Can Learn And Grow lt's OK if you are alone at the moment, if you are not ⅲ a relationship. Whether it is for a short time or a lifetime, it can provide a great space for you tO learn and grow. Being on your own for some time may well be just the right thing for you to give you the chance t0 think about what you really want and wh0 you really are. Ⅱ you have been hurt before, being on your own can heal you and help you t0 feel strong again ・ Trust yourself if you are on your own and you will learn and grow as a person. 110

3 ス Learn From Each Other Throughout your life you will learn and go on learn- ing. Everythmg you do gives you a chance t0 learn more about yourself. Being ⅲ a relationship is a great way tO learn about yourself because when you are close tO another person you notice things about them and you that are worth thinking about. You will always learn from each other in relationships. You will notice things that happen and think about your feelings about these things. You may think about what you could dO better next time and if you are brave enough, you can change the way you d0 things for the better. This is hOW you learn from another person; by notic- ing your feelings and then changing the way you d0 things. 48

91 ・ Take Control The things you hear from others, the words you speak to others and the words you speak t0 yourself can all make a difference t0 you, t0 your life and your thoughts. If you hear negative things all the time, you are more likely to become negative in your thinking and your actions. If you often say hard or unkind things about others, you are likely t0 become hard and unkind in your own heart. You can control your own thoughts and stop negative thinking. You also can choose t0 control how people talk to you. If people around you often say negative or unpleasant things, you can either ask them tO change what they are talking about or not listen to them. You will be a stronger and better person if you do this. 107

2 ス Forgiveness Everyone finds it hard to forgive someone who has done something that hurts you or something thought- less. lt is easy t0 go on thinking much t00 often about what it was they did to hurt you. D0ing so does not help you t0 get on with your life. lt does not help you to live your life ⅲ a happy way. The Other person might have hurt you once; but when you think about it over and over again, you hurt yourself again and again. Every time you think about it you relive the hurt. By reliving the pain in your mind over and over again, dO you not hurt yourself more Often than the other person hurt you in the first place? Le arn t0 forgive other people when you think they have hurt you or done something wrong to you. Also, learn to forgive yourself for things you have done wrong or could have done better. The past is gone and finished. If you have done some- thing wrong, learn from what you have done and try never to d0 it again. Forgive yourself and think about hOW you can be better in the future. 38

Know When To Leave ln a new relationship, everyone hopes that their love will grow and that both of you will become stronger together, happily growing as a loving couple. This doesn't always happen ・ While many relationships do grow, some do not. This is sad, but true. HOW d0 you know when a relationship is over? Your heart will tell you and your intuition will tell you. You may feel sad, the pleasure of seeing your partner may go, you may feel doubt and pain and you may feel that the love between you is over. If you feel these feelings, think very carefully about whether you should stay in the relationship or end it. If you stay ⅲ an unhappy relationship, you d0 not 100k after your best interests. Long-lasting sadness will hurt you and make it hard for you t0 be happy again ⅲ the future. If your partner is not able to talk with you honestly about the problems and difficulties that you are feeling, you should take care 0f yourself and end the relation- ship. Know when to leave. Work out how to tell your part- ner it's over and make your plans tO leave. 81